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November 14, 2018

Handle with care

Filed under: Alameda — Lauren Do @ 6:04 am

Arg, I had trouble deciding whether to write about the effectiveness of endorsements or about fragile people on social media.  Based on the title clearly I went with fragile people on social media.   Maybe it’s just me but generally the fragile people end up being dudes.

So, remember when a lot of people reported being systemically blocked by then City Council candidate and now City Council member-elect Tony Daysog?  A few people made excuses for him (figures) and he claimed to only allow “journalists” to view his account.   But bottom line is he blocked people from his account so that people wouldn’t be able to view his historic tweets like these which made him sound super professional:




And, interestingly enough —  I scrolled people, I scrolled — Tony Daysog has deleted all posts from before May of 2015 so you won’t find the gems like the one I screen capped above.

Another thing that I’ve noticed and other (mostly female) social media users have noticed is the selective blocking from other users, mostly on Facebook, after criticism on political issues.  I noticed during the final week before the election while I was asking for a response from an A Better Alameda / ACT PAC apologist that all of the sudden the dialogue that he was having with both me and some other folks got super confusing.  Because rather than continue to dialogue he decided to block me instead of — I dunno — address the issue at hand.

I also trolled Trish Spencer’s “Mayor Trish” Facebook page yesterday to see if there was any thing addressing the election results — the answer is “nope” — and there was a weird part where someone who was having a back and forth with Trish Spencer had then addressed another individual by name whose posts I also could not see.  I believe it was someone who had run for City Council who also preemptively blocked me from seeing his posts.

Now, these are all private individuals (except Tony Daysog who is now very very public) who have the ability to do so, but it’s an interesting phenomenon that I know other Alameda women have experienced on social media: being blocked by fragile males on social media.  Look the reality is not everyone will agree with everyone else, but if you go around trying to pretend like that position or that person doesn’t exist, it’s not like that position or person goes away.  Hiding from the criticism isn’t going to do any good.


  1. I resonate with this post, so hard. My hunch is that some of these fellas don’t have a lot of experience doing debate, conversation, etc with women in a professional way. So rather than learn to take an L, which happens to all of us, they put their fingers in their ears. My fond hope is they find their way to fully engage with the entire community.

    Comment by Gaylon — November 14, 2018 @ 6:56 am

  2. This sounds like the opening of a constructive dialogue. Should be enjoyable.

    Comment by MP — November 14, 2018 @ 7:12 am

  3. If he buys the discounted donald trump flaming orange wig, he will be all set to resume the role of inconsequential vote on the city council.

    Comment by notadave — November 14, 2018 @ 8:15 am

  4. Latest election numbers: MEA is now up by 1441 votes. Oddie’s ahead by 485.

    Comment by trow125 — November 14, 2018 @ 5:47 pm

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